VALLEY VIEW ELEMENTARY
EARLY CHILDHOOD AND BULLYING ISSUES
Young children may be aggressive and act out when they are angry or don’t get what they want, BUT THIS IS NOT BULLYING!
Early childhood often marks the first opportunity for young children to interact with each other. Between the ages of 3 and 5, kids are learning how to get along with each other, cooperate, share, and understand their feelings. Young children may be aggressive and act out when they are angry or don’t get what they want, but this is not bullying.
WHAT IS BULLYING?............BULLYING:
A. is unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children.
B. involves a real or perceived power imbalance.
C. is when the behavior is REPEATED, or has the potential to be repeated, over time.
D. includes actions such as making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally, and excluding someone from a group on purpose.
Bullying is a reality but we can help our children better handle these different types of situations using proven strategies to help them cope.
Helping Young Children Get Along with Others
Parents, school staff, and other adults can help young children develop skills for getting along with others in age-appropriate ways.
· Model positive ways for young children to make friends. For example, practice pleasant ways that children can ask to join others in play and take turns in games. Coach older children to help reinforce these behaviors as well. Praise children for appropriate behavior. Help young children understand what behaviors are friendly.
· Help young children learn the consequences of certain actions in terms they can understand. For example, say “if you don't share, other children may not want to play with you.” Encourage young children to tell an adult if they are treated in a way that makes them feel uncomfortable, upset or unhappy, or if they witness other children being harmed.
· Set clear rules for behavior and monitor children's interactions carefully. Step in quickly to stop aggressive behavior or redirect it before it occurs.
· Use age-appropriate consequences for aggressive behavior. Young children should be encouraged to say "I'm sorry" whenever they hurt a peer, even accidentally. The apology should also be paired with an action. For example, young children could help rebuild a knocked over block structure or replace a torn paper or crayons with new ones.
IN ORDER FOR A BEHAVIOR TO BE CONSIDERED BULLYING, THE BEHAVIOR MUST BE AGGRESSIVE AND INCLUDE:
· An Imbalance of Power: Kids who bully use their power—such as physical strength, access to embarrassing information, or popularity—to control or harm others. Power imbalances can change over time and in different situations, even if they involve the same people.
· Repetition: Bullying behaviors happen more than once or have the potential to happen more than once.
Bullying includes actions such as making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally, and excluding someone from a group on purpose.
Types of Bullying
There are different types of bullying:
Verbal bullying is saying or writing mean things about someone. Verbal bullying includes:
&Teasing &Name-calling &Inappropriate sexual comments
&Taunting &Threatening to cause harm
Social bullying, sometimes referred to as relational bullying, involves hurting someone’s reputation or relationships. Social bullying includes:
&Leaving someone out on purpose &Telling other children not to be friends with someone &Spreading rumors about someone &Embarrassing someone in public
Physical bullying involves hurting a person’s body or possessions. Physical bullying includes:
&Hitting/kicking/pinching &Spitting &Tripping/pushing
&Taking or breaking someone’s things &Making mean or rude hand gestures
&Spreading rumors on different social medias, (face book, tweeter, etc.)
&Lack of respect for all users on the Internet
&Using rude or offensive language &Posting negative comments or images
In School Where and When Bullying Could Happen
Bullying can occur during or after school hours. While most reported bullying happens in the school building, a significant percentage also happens in places like on the playground or the bus. It can also happen travelling to or from school, in the youth’s neighborhood, or on the Internet.
Prevention at School
· Bullying can threaten students’ physical and emotional safety at school and can negatively impact their ability to learn. The best way to address bullying is to stop it before it starts. There is a number of things Valley View Elementary school staff does to make our school safer and prevent bullying.
· At Valley View Elementary we feel that it is important for everyone in the community to work together to send a unified message against bullying. The counselor spearheads an awareness campaign to make the objectives known to the school, parents, and community members via classroom presentations, district webpage, parent handouts, bullying posters, and student-parent-teacher anti bullying contracts.
· We have implemented a code of conduct, school-wide rules, anti-bullying posters and a bullying reporting system. These help to establish a climate in which bullying is not acceptable.
· We have attempted to establish a school culture of acceptance, tolerance and respect. We utilize meetings, assemblies, class and parent meetings, newsletters to families, the school website, and the student handbook to establish a positive climate at school and student-parent-teacher anti bullying contract to reinforce positive social interactions and inclusiveness.
· Educate students on reporting bullying issues for themselves or for someone else and we have ensured an accountability system to address the problem
· Train teachers and staff on the school’s rules and policies and have provided them the skills to intervene consistently and appropriately. If there is a bullying allegation the counselor will address immediately.
(SOURCES: Stopbullying.gov and Mentoringminds.com)
If you have any questions or concerns please contact
Mrs. Isela HErevia, at (956)-340-1450